Category: Relationships

Live abundantly…


There’s always someone who is going to know more than you.
Someone who will know less than you.
Someone who has more than you.
Someone who has less than you.

But no one is exactly like you. And no one has the ability to be grateful what they have in the here and now more so than you do.

Choose to live a life of abundance, get more of the things you really want in life by being grateful for what you already have. Even if the day is bad and you feel like you have a black cloud looming over you. Even when everything is just perfect in your life. Be grateful for the here and now, what you have and watch more of the good stuff come to you.

The key is focus on the good; whether it’s good health, sunshine on your face, food in your pantry, a good friend to share with, unconditional love from a four-legged furry friend…whatever it may be. Be grateful for what you have today so you can have more tomorrow.

Live well my friends!

Top regrets…

regrets of dying

I was speaking with a friend this morning  about commitments and this seemed to fall perfectly in that thought track…the top five regrets of the dying. I read the full article and research that went with it and it was powerful and moving.

When you think about your commitments to yourself, keep these in mind.
Don’t worry about working that one extra hour, go home and be with friends or family.
Express yourself and your feelings even if they are counter to someone else’s – they are your feelings and they are valid.

Stay in touch with friends, even if it is over FB or Twitter – both are valid forms of communication.
Be who you were meant to me, and if that means you’re happy working as a waitress even if others want you to do more – be the best dang waitress ever and be.

And be happy…with you, with your life, with what you have – what you have is a lot.

Live well my friends!

Live revenge free…


The game of revenge just isn’t worth it.
Forgive and move on…that other person will eventually reap what they have sown and you don’t need to be there to witness it.

Live your better life and live it revenge free.

Give it a good cry…

Do you feel the need to be strong not just for yourself but for those around you? The kind of strong where you don’t shed a tear, you make the quick decision and get everyone else to get in line and do?

Being strong can take a lot out of a person. We all have moments when a good cry would feel so darn good but too many of us think a good cry is a sign of weakness so we don’t allow ourselves the chance to do that.

Crying is a great form of release. It releases energy and allows us to feel better. To feel free. To gain better perspective.

If you feel like you’re struggling to go on, maybe a good cry (a release of energy) is exactly what you could use. You’re not weak when you cry, you’re actually creating strength.
Give it a shot.

Live well my friends!

Have the confidence…


When a person has self confidence they feel sexy and radiant. There’s nothing they can’t accomplish. Others want to be around them.

Be certain what you have is self confidence because not only do YOU feel amazing but others around you do as well.

Live well my friends!

What are you waiting for…

terrible thing

Are you waiting? What for?
Now is exactly the right time.
So, what are you waiting for?

How much time are you spending waiting on it to the “the right time” or are you waiting until you have “more time”? There is no such thing as the “right time”. The right time is right now! And you always have “more time”, because you can make more time instead of waiting for it to create itself.

Let’s get away from waiting and let’s get into doing.

Live well my friends!

Put in what you want out…

two way street

I saw a post from a friend that got me wondering…what do you want out of your current relationship?

two way street

If it’s anything other than exactly what you are putting into it, stop a second and take stock.
All too often I have clients and friends tell me:

  • I want him/her to notice when I’m not around. OK great, do you notice when he/she isn’t around?
  • I want to be told I’m something special. OK great, are YOU doing the same?
  • I want to be loved unconditionally. OK great, are YOU doing the same?

What you want should not be more than what you’re willing to give.

  • If you want unconditional love, then give that.
  • If you want respect, then give that.
  • If you want someone to be happy when you walk in the door, then give that.

Relationships are a two way street…determine your direction, give the same that you expect and go.

Live well my friends!

Don’t love the least…

push away

In a conversation with a very dear friend he mentioned that whomever cares the least in a relationship has all the power. He said that from now on in all relationships he has he will care the least and he recommended that I do the same – to save myself any heartache.

I cannot tell you how much hearing that sends chills down my spine, I’ve known this person since the beginning of my life and to think that he (or anyone) would purposefully NOT care so they could ensure having the upper hand in all relationships brings me such sadness.

When we do not bring our full selves, all of our self, to a relationship; it’s not just the other party that suffers as a result, WE do too! Relationships are not easy but they are worth it and between all the hard bits are some truly lovely bits and it’s those hard bits that make you appreciate the lovely bits.

Don’t shackle yourself because of fear; if you do then everyone you come in contact with is the one that loses, just like you.

Allow yourself unconditional love and the possibility of heartache, when you do, you’re open to all possibilities that love brings to you and in that space is a great amount of joy.

Live (and love) well my friends!

Do you practice your optimism?


Optimism Gets Better with Use

Have you ever met someone that you know doesn’t have an ounce of optimism in their body?  They stand out in a crowd – they have that little virtual dark cloud above their heads, personally I avoid them.

Positive people practice their optimism! When “life” gives them lemons they really do figure out how make lemonade, or lemon curd, or lemon chicken – from something bad to something wonderful.   It isn’t always easy, some challenges in life are tougher than others but the positive people come out on top. Why? They practice their optimism, much like practicing a martial art, they have the ability to use it when needed, becoming seamless and fundamental to their existence.

Do you practice your optimism?


Guest blog from my good friend Kim Kachadoorian

Lose the disappointment…

lopside cake

We all have this picture in our mind on how things are supposed to be or how they are supposed to play out. It’s a perfect picture of how it should be. When it doesn’t turn out that way we end up disappointed.

It doesn’t matter if it’s the perfect picture of how our wedding day should be, or a piece of art we’re working on, a meeting with someone, a relationship, a haircut, a cake we’re decorating, a work day, a work out…whatever it is: we have the picture perfect version of it in our mind and it doesn’t turn out that way and we’re left unhappy and disappointed.

Have you ever been there? Sure, we all have at one point.

But what if we didn’t have to be disappointed? What if we could be happy with how it turned out, no matter how it turned out? And happy not because we want to be blissfully ignorant or stick our head in the sand…but happy because we don’t picture perfection – we picture the feeling we’ll have.

Whether it’s a wedding, relationship, meeting, decoration, a day, an event…whatever it is – what is the feeling we want to associate with that? Let’s picture that in our mind and let our focus be there on that feeling…not a feeling of perfection but a feeling of “Look what I get to be part of, no matter how it turns out. I. Got. To. Be. Part. Of. This.” and then there’s no disappointment because yes, we got to be part of this and this was good.

Live well my friends!